"On the wedding to-do lists, it mentions ordering Tuxedos. Is that something the Bride needs to be concerned with or is it more of a task for the groom? Especially if the bride doesn't really care whether the groom wears a tux or a suit, as long as it looks good."
That's a great question, Amy. Like you said, it depends on the bride . . . and also the groom. I went with my hubby to check out tuxes, but all of his family lived out of state so it was just us making the decisions. For the most part, he chose the tux he liked with just a little feedback from me.
Usually the groom chooses the design of tuxedo he prefers before-hand, then makes a group appointment for fittings. Who needs tuxedos? The groom, guys from both immediate families, and any groomsmen. .
Sometimes the groom doesn't care what he wears, but the bride has specific ideas of what type/color of tux she prefers. In this case, the bride and groom may go in ahead of time, choose the tuxes, then the guys just show up for the measurements and fittings.
Most guys would prefer to just walk into a tuxedo store and say, "I need a tux." and have the assistant measure him, then hand him something from off the rack. But it just doesn't work that way. It's actually much more complicated than it seems. Brides have tons of style choices for their dresses. Well guess what? The groom has almost as many style choices for their tuxedos as well.
Choosing a tuxedo can be quite overwhelming. When I think of a tux, I think black pants, black coat, white shirt, black cumber bun, and black tie. But did you know the choices range from jackets with one, two, three, four, or five buttons? Or that lapels can be either a notch, shawl, peak, or double-breasted? Or that tails come in different styles, two of which are cutaway tails and full dress tails? The following examples are from MW Tux.
This classic style is a Joseph & Feiss Black Cutaway, featuring a single button, center-vented jacket with peak lapel. Very dashing, don't you think?
For a more modern look, try this stylish two-button satin edge notch lapel tuxedo from Wilke-Rodriguez.
If you're having a themed wedding, check out the following two tuxedos . . .
This morning wedding tuxedo is a Joseph & Feiss Gray Cutaway. These morning wedding suits remind me of Mr. Darcy for some reason. Mmm . . . love them!
The website actually recommended this suit for an outdoor wedding/reception. But hello? It's WHITE! I recommend avoiding white for outdoor receptions. I wore a white gown for my oldest brother's wedding. The reception was outdoors. We sat on a bench for some pictures and when I got up, I had a huge dirt mark on the back of my dress (of course located right on my tush!). It was so embarrassing, especially since I was only 14 years old at the time. But I do think this Joseph & Feiss two-tone ivory notch lapel tuxedo is gorgeous for a white wedding party. You can add color to the vest and tie to break up the white. Very elegant.
Once the style of tuxedo is decided, then you get to figure out if you want a cumber bun or a vest for under the jacket, and if you prefer a bow tie or regular tie. At this point, color really comes into play. As you can see from the pictures above, you can choose traditional white or black for the accessories or you can choose to co-ordinate with the bridesmaid dresses. These days there's a whole rainbow of colors available for ties, vests, and cumber buns. All you need to do is bring in a color swatch from the bridesmaid dresses and it can be matched up for the tuxedo accessories.
So while the bride doesn't neccessarily need to go with the groom to choose a tuxedo, I would recommend that the bride and groom at least take an evening to browse through either a tuxedo magazine or a website like MW Tux. This way they can eliminate options they don't like and narrow down their choices to a few styles they both prefer. Then when the groom is at the store, he can make the final decision of which tuxedo he likes best.
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