January 29, 2009
When considering lengths, first look at your gown's style and decide what you would like to accentuate. The veil should be above or below the gown's focal point. For example, if your gown has a very detailed bodice and your veil was short (ending where your bodice begins), then you will visually cut yourself in half. Not very flattering. In this case, choose a longer veil, such as a fingertip length, which won't distract from your gown's details.
Here are some silhouette rules to help you . . .
1. The slimmer the gown, the longer the veil. For example, a figure-hugging wedding gown with a short train looks fabulous with long chapel-length veil.
2. If you want a long veil, such as chapel, cathedral, or grand cathedral lengths, then your veil should be slightly longer than your train. This way it doesn't look like you ran out of fabric! Hint: Long veils should have more than one tier. Have the longest tier be detachable for the wedding reception.
3. For an A-Line wedding gown, try a fingertip length veil. It compliments the proportions of the gown perfectly. For a floaty, dreamy look, you can try a chapel length veil with gentle long tiers.
4. If your gown has a full, puffy princess skirt and a fitted bodice, then an elbow length or shorter veil will look best. For good balance between the skirt and veil, try a fuller volume veil.
Also, keep in mind your headpiece design and where the veil will be placed on your head. If it's on the back of your head, then it will be longer than if it were on the top of your head. Here's an easy way to figure out what length you like in the comfort of your own home. You'll need a friend to help you!
Roll of string
Put your headpiece on. Then have your friend clip the end of the string on your head where the veil will start. Slowly unroll the string to until it's the length you like best. Cut the string and measure it. This will give you a general idea of what length you prefer, so you'll know where to start when you go veil shopping.
Now, on to veil lengths! To the left, you'll find an awesome veil chart to help you visualize your gown and veil courtesy of Veil Trends.
You'll find there are lots and lots and lots of different names for different lengths. Don't get overwhelmed! Also, don't get caught up in the romanticness of one name vs. another.
Lengths & Looks
Dramatic and Chic
Fly Away or Short Shoulder (20" or less) - This veil can be casual or very chic depending on what embellishments, style, or material is chosen. It should only be worn with gowns with no train.
Shoulder Length (25") - Once again, this veil should only be worn with gowns with no train.
Elbow Length (30") - This is the most popular length. It's generally used for a gown without a train or with a very short train. This length enhances detailing around the waist of the gown. It also compliments a full gown and ends just above the start of the skirt.
Fingertip or Waist Length (36") - Looks beautiful with any full length gown. The veil falls right at the fingertips of the bride if her hands are at her side. If this length has an oval cut, it will make your waist appear smaller as the fullest part of the veil is at your elbows.
Knee Length - (45") - This veil fall to about your knees. Perfect for a lovely, but dramatic look.
Waltz or Ballet Length ( 54-60") This veil length hits your body somewhere between your knees and calves. It's positively soft and romantic!
Floor Length (72") - A floor length veil is very elegant and formal. If your gown has no train and you want a long veil, this is a wonderful choice.
Chapel Length (90") - Perfect if you are looking for a long veil to compliment a gown with a short train.
Cathedral Length ( 120") Worn only for formal weddings. Usually extends at least six inches past the train. Looks best with a cathedral or semi-cathedral length gown.
Grand Cathedral Length (144") - Unless you have a hugely long train, this veil will sweep past the end of the train for a richly elegant look.
Also, here are a few websites with wonderful pictures of veils in various lengths:
The Wedding Veil Shop
I hope this answers many of your questions about veil lengths. If there's something you'd like to ask about, feel free to send me an email!
January 22, 2009
Yesterday, I received this awesome email from a From My Wedding to Yours reader. She said:
I wanted to tell you about the shower I threw for my sister-in-law. Thanks for the great help! I put together your ideas with several others, and this is how it went.
It was a "kitchen"-themed bridal shower. The centerpiece for the gift table was my gift to her - a basket full of kitchen necessities (canned food, dish soap, etc.). For the food table, the centerpiece was a vase full of kitchen utensils! I mostly chose tall ones (wooden spoons, spatulas, etc.) and mixed in a few little white flowers. It turned out pretty cute!
When it was time to open gifts, I used your idea - the person giving the gift read a question to her. She was able to answer the question while she opened the gift, taking a little bit of the "everyone is looking at me" pressure off of her while letting us get to know her a bit better.
Then, when the gifts were opened, I got out the vase of kitchen utensils and had each guest choose one. Each utensil had a "challenge" question tied onto it - I had interviewed the groom and her answer had to match his. They were questions like "What was the name of his last mission companion?" and "What is your favorite US city?" If she answered correctly, she got to keep the utensil. If her answer didn't match the groom's, the guest got to keep the prize! Well, that was the idea anyway. Everyone let her keep her prizes, even when she didn't answer right. (I went to a shower in college where we played this game. It was fun - since we were all poor college students, we didn't cut the bride any slack! We wanted those prizes!)
For our party favor, I gave each guest a heart-shaped cookie cutter with a brownie inside. That way they were able to get a treat, but they also had a little token that they would use again to help them remember the bride and groom. Wrapped in little cellophane bags, they were really cute!
Thanks again for your help! I hope I've given you an idea or two that might be useful at some point on your blog!
I'm so glad your bridal shower worked out so well! It sounds like you had a wonderful time. And I just love your kitchen themed bridal shower! I'm sure it will inspire many other FMW2Y readers. Thank you so much for writing!
January 19, 2009
1. Choose your gown.
2. Decide on a hairstyle.
3. Go veil hunting!
Now that you're in the veil hunting stage, there's actually another list to work on.
1. Choose a headpiece.
2. Decide on a veil length, material, and color.
3. Consider which embellishments, if any, you'd like on your veil (ribbon-edging, sewn-on pearls, etc)
Today, we are going to talk about the list's first step: Choosing a headpiece.
There's a huge variety of headpieces, each with their own blend of pearls, crystals, rhinestones, sequins, and more. I suggest visiting a few websites to see which headpiece styles you prefer. Some fantastic websites with a plethora of headpieces are Bridal Fashion Mall, Bridal Headpieces, Wedding Veil, David's Bridal, and VeiluBridal. Then hit the stores and try on headpieces in those specific styles. You may find a specific style you love online, but first try on a similar style in the store to make sure that's the one you want. Then if they don't carry it, order it online. Once you find your headpiece, you can start trying different lengths and styles of veils to complete the your bridal look.
Now, let's talk more about headpieces styles.
Crowns & Tiaras
This is it!The ultimate princess accessory! Crowns and tiaras are very glamorous and considered a symbol of posterity. Although many people wonder what the difference is between a crown and a tiara. It's hard to tell as they both can have very similar styles. But there actually is something that makes one stand out from the other. A crown is either a full decorative circle (like a crown). Sometimes the decorative section of the crown doesn't complete the full circle, but ends about three-quarters of they way around, then dips in the back to create a different style for your veil. On the other hand, tiaras are more like a little girl's dress-up tiara. There's a front section of crown-like decoration, but sides to attach it are either hair combs or thin metal like a headband.
Crown photos courtesy of Bridal Headpieces.
Tiara photos courtesy of USA Bride.
These headpieces are shaped like footballs, but curved to sit on top of your head. (Didn't expect me to bring up sports in my wedding blog, did you? See, wedding details can be guy-friendly too.) These headpieces look fabulous with either an up-do or with hair spilling out from the back. Generally the veil is attached to the lower back of the headpiece. This headpiece gives the illusion of having a continuous decorative band wrapping around your head.
Bent Band photos courtesy of Bridal Headpieces.
Hair Combs (aka Short Arches)
If you're looking for something that is simple to remove during your reception, hair combs are an excellent option. Basically, they are a "short arch" of pearls, rhinestones, etc attached to either a metal or clear plastic hair comb. Some combs are smaller than others. Be sure to consider your hair style and hair texture. This style also looks great whether you choose an up-do or leave your hair down. This was my choice when choosing a headpiece for my wedding. I had shoulder length hair that I wanted to leave down. I wanted something that would be easy to put in, but also easy to remove for dancing during our reception. The hair comb headpiece worked wonderfully!
Hair Comb photos courtesy of David's Bridal.
If you're wearing your hair down, but would like to have it pulled back a bit from your face, then a headband is a fantastic headpiece option. Headbands come in a variety of styles - from a simple elegant satin band to the fancier pearl or rhinestone embellishments.
Headband photos courtesy of David's Bridal.
Wreaths and Hair Rings
These headpieces are circular with veils in the back. The hair rings are a complete circle sitting at the bottom of your up-do. Wreaths are open in the back and wrap around your up-do, then the veil is on a hair comb and is placed separately from the wreath.
Wreath and Hair Ring photos courtesy of Bridal Headpieces.
A floral spray is a headpiece made with either silk or fresh flowers. I recommend using silk flowers as fresh flowers can be quite heavy depending on your style and you don't have to worry about them falling off or wilting.
Floral Spray photos courtesy of Bridal Headpieces.
If you're planning a themed wedding or want something less dramatic than a huge veil, consider a tastefully designed bridal hat. Also, if this is your second marriage and you don't want a traditional veil, then a hat would fit in fabulously! Also, I love the web veils that surround these hats. Aren't they gorgeous?
Bridal Hat photos courtesy of Bridal Headpieces.
Brow Bands (aka V-Bands)
These headpieces sit lightly on your head and come to a point about mid-forehead. They are secured on your head with hair combs. The veil can be sewn onto the back or attached with a comb for easy removal. Brow bands lend a very dramatic look to your bridal attire.
Brow Band photos courtesy of VeiluBridal.
Hair Jewelry is the perfect accent to any wedding hairstyle - from the bride to the bridesmaid, short or long hair, veil or no veil. The options are only limited to your stylist's creative talents.
Hair Jewelry photos courtesy of David's Bridal.
Hair Jewelry bridal hairstyle photos courtesy of weddinghair.com
As you've seen, there are options galore when it comes to bridal headpieces. I wish you luck on your hunt for the perfect headpiece to complement your bridal style!
January 16, 2009
Wedding veils are one of the oldest bridal traditions - much older than white wedding gowns.
The oldest record of brides wearing veils comes from the Roman Empire. Brides wore special cloths around their faces called flammeum. The cloths were painted with fire and flame designs to scare away evil spirits who might want to kidnap the bride. In fact, this superstition was so strong that families often brought bridesmaids as decoys for the bride. These maids would be beautifully dressed similar to the bride sans the veil. So if the evil spirits decided to attend the wedding, they'd over look the bride hidden behind her veil and choose one of the bridesmaids instead. Perhaps if we still felt this way today, there would be less hackling over who received the honored title of bridesmaid.
Veils were also played an important role in arranged marriages.
You know that saying that the groom isn't supposed to see his bride before the wedding? Heavy veils made it possible for the bride and groom to exchange vows without anyone seeing the bride until the groom unveiled her after the vows were completed. In old Jewish tradition, the groom wasn't allowed to unveil the bride until just before they consummated the marriage. If you think back to the Old Testament, you'll remember one such instance when this created quite a dilemma.
In the book of Genesis, Jacob fell deeply in love with Laban's daughter, Rachel. Jacob requested the honor to marry her, and Laban granted permission. When the wedding day arrived, Laban tricked Jacob by having his other daughter Leah dress in Rachel's veil. Jacob was not a happy man when after the ceremony, he discovered he had married the wrong woman. This story spurred the beginning of a new Jewish tradition where the groom, accompanied by his parents and the Rabbi, cover the bride's face with a veil just before the ceremony. Then the groom once again unveils her at the end of the ceremony. This tradition is called badeken.
In more modern Western weddings, the bridal veil represented innocence and purity. Only first time virgin brides were permitted to wear veils.
Today, bridal veils have a whole new meaning. They signify a joyous event - a wedding! It's also the final crowning touch to the bride's attire. Here's a look at how veils have changed over the last several decades.
20's - Throughout the early part of the early 20th Century and into the 1920's brides wore a lace cloche headdress encircled at with flowers. Veils were silk tulle adorned with wax orange blossom flowers and velvet leaves that matched her waist corsage.
30's - Veils started to make a more simple statement as the bride wore them hanging loose to compliment the sleek look of their form-fitting gowns.
40's - During the post war years of the 1940's, bride's began to develop a more extravagant veil look with half-crown headpieces featuring rhinestones and wax blossom flowers.
50's - Skullcap headpieces were common during this period of the 1950's for evening wear, and bridal designers began developing skullcap headpieces in velvet and satin with a circular veil. These veils ranged in length from 18" to 27" long.
60's - Veils began to take on various appearances much like today. Many style headpieces and veil combinations arrived inspired by famous motion pictures. In the later part of the decade, hippies inspired a "flower child" look by wearing real flowers in the hair along with veils.
70's to present - These decades of wedding veils was inspired by the bride's own creation and preference for veils. Headpiece styles ranged from large elaborate pearls and bead designs to simple lace and mantilla veils. Tiaras started to become a trend in the 90's up to present times
On a more personal note, my bridal veil holds a different meaning.
As I stood in front of the huge mirrors in the Mount Timpanogas Temple Bride's Room, I not only saw a young woman dressed in a beautiful gown with a flowing veil - but a daughter of God crowned to become a queen with her husband in the eternities. I love taking my veil out of storage and showing it to my daughter. I especially love the look of wonderment on her face as I place the veil on her head and tell her how one day she, too, will be married and crowned a queen in Heavenly Father's kingdom as well.
So while my veil was the crowning touch on my wedding day, it's also a symbol of the beginning of a beautiful relationship with my husband and our future potential as we work and serve Heavenly Father. I pray that your wedding veil will hold as much significance for you as well.
January 12, 2009
After getting engaged, the next thing you (and many other brides) do is purchase a bride magazine and begin picturing yourself in beautiful bridal attire. This includes your dream hairstyle and bridal veil.
Now, before you get ahead of yourself, there is an order things should be done.
1. Pick out your wedding gown first.
Why? How will you know what type of headpiece to choose if you don't know what you're co-ordinating with? Also, you gown could be white, ivory, off-white, cream, etc. There are so many, many shades of white available. When you find that perfect dress, you will want your veil to be the correct shade. Traditional white doesn't work with everything.
2. Decide on your wedding hairstyle.
Why? Now that you have your dress, you have a better idea of what type of hairstyle would look best with your gown. Do you want a formal up-do or a casual loose up-do? Or perhaps you prefer to wear your hair down and flowing around you. Some brides prefer a simple hairstyle, and others like half-up & half-down styles. Those with short hair have many options as well! You may choose to have fun curls accented with hair jewelry, or go with a more modern and funky look accented with a delicate jeweled headband. Or try something that's really different from your everyday hair and purchase a hair extension insert. My friend, Devon, did this and I couldn't tell where the insert began. It matched her hair beautifully. It's a very big decision, ladies, but an important one to figure out before moving on to the next step.
Tips: Depending on the length of your engagement, you may want to consult with your hair stylist to create a "growing-out" plan if you want to grow your hair into a different style for your wedding. Your stylist will be able to help you figure out if the hairstyle you want is workable with your length of hair. If it's not, she can also offer suggestions of styles that will create a similar look.
3. Go Veil Hunting!
Why? Don't go to just one store to look for a veil. Each bridal store will have different selections, especially when it comes to headpieces. Try a variety. Not just what you think you'd like, but try some styles that didn't grab your immediate attention as well. If anything, you'll come away with a much better idea of what you're looking for. After trying on lots and lots of headpieces and veils in all shapes and lengths, you'll have a much better idea of what you're looking for - not to mention a slightly sore head. I suggest a really nice ten minute head massage!
Tips: Don't let someone talk you into buying a veil because it "matches your dress". Instead, look for a detail from your gown you would like to enhance - such as pearls, flower details, or the trim. It could even be the flowers in your bouquet.
Veil hunting all in itself can be a daunting task. There are so many options! Over the next few weeks, I am going to delve into what veils look great with up-do's, long hair, short hair, funky new trends, lengths, edges, shapes, etc, etc, etc. So get ready for veils, veils, and even more veils!
*Photo courtesy of wedding-veil.com
January 9, 2009
The joyous day has passed and you're now officially Mr. & Mrs. Congrats!
But wait! Remember that wedding to-do list you obsessively checked about a million times? Well, guess what? There's another to-do list you and your spouse now need to work your way through, too.
What You'll Need:
- Multiple official copies of your wedding license - about two or three should do. Note: Your wedding license is not the pretty certificate you received at the temple. You need to go to your city or county offices to request (and pay for) copies of the official license.
- Any bills or papers that include contact information for the below organizations.
Once you have your marriage licenses, you're ready to start tackling your to-do list. But first, I suggest you grab some of your favorite comfort foods while your work on this dreary task. As always, I highly recommend chocolate!
After the Wedding To-Do List
You will need to change your name and update your new address at the following places:
-The Social Security Administration
-The Department of Motor Vehicles
Note: If you're traveling for your honeymoon then your tickets should be in your maiden name. Wait until after your traveling is complete before changing your driver's license or the airline may not let you check-in. This actually happened to me. I actually had to have a manager approve my check-in because my ticket was in my married name but my driver's license was still in my maiden name. Be sure your documentation matches your traveling ticket info.
-The U.S. State Passport Services Office
Note: See above driver's license info about traveling. The same applies to Passports.
-Voter Registration Office
-The Post Office
Note: This is also a good time to combine or close accounts, if needed.
Note: While you are making address and name changes, be sure to ask for forms to change your beneficiary preferences if you'd like to change them to include your spouse.
Note: You may want to make changes to your W-2
-Managers of Retirement Accounts (401K, etc)
Note: While you are making address and name changes, be sure to ask for forms to change your beneficiary preferences if you'd like to change them to include your spouse.
-Health Insurance Company
Note: Ask about options for adding your spouse to your plan.
-Credit Card Companies
-Student Loan Companies
Note: Make any necessary changes to your Will at the same time (changing beneficiaries, etc)
-Doctor's Offices (medical, dentist, etc)
-Order New Checks and Address Labels
- Ward Clerk
Note: Check that names were changed correctly and that you and your spouse were linked together on the Church system.
-Your College & Alumni Association
-Any club or organization with whom you hold a membership
While you are making all of these changes, take the time to organize all the contact information into a spreadsheet for easier access for future reference. My hubby was smart enough to look ahead and do this and we've used his spreadsheet many, many times since our wedding day!
January 5, 2009
You see, the groom isn't a big cake fan - but he loves pie.
So rather than a four-tier wedding cake, there were tables all together in an L-shaped loaded down with pie, pie, and more pie! Cherry, apple, and pecan. Chocolate pudding, coconut cream, and banana cream. And of course, absolutely delicious cheesecake. There was a huge selection to choose from - and many of us sampled more than one!
The table was beautifully decorated, too. A beautiful black linen draped the tables with white twinkling Christmas lights around the sides and on top. Then the pies were on stands of all different heights, creating a beautiful presentation. The couple's pie had a wedding topper. Hint: To keep the topper from sinking, add a support stand with legs to go into the pie, then place the topper on the stand.
If you or your fiance aren't big cake lovers, try this fun idea instead. Your wedding guests enjoy the surprise!
Here's a wonderful Cherry Pie recipe from Food Network
by Peter Sterk
4 cups fresh or frozen tart cherries
1 to 1 1/2 cups granulated sugar
4 tablespoons cornstarch
1/8 tablespoon almond extract (optional)
Your favorite pie crust or pie dough recipe for 2 crust pie
1 1/2 tablespoons butter, to dot
1 tablespoon granulated sugar, to sprinkle
Place cherries in medium saucepan and place over heat. Cover. After the cherries lose considerable juice, which may take a few minutes, remove from heat. In a small bowl, mix the sugar and cornstarch together. Pour this mixture into the hot cherries and mix well. Add the almond extract, if desired, and mix. Return the mixture to the stove and cook over low heat until thickened, stirring frequently. Remove from the heat and let cool. If the filling is too thick, add a little water, too thin, add a little more cornstarch.
Preheat the oven to 375 degrees F.
Use your favorite pie dough recipe. Prepare your crust. Divide in half. Roll out each piece large enough to fit into an 8 to 9-inch pan. Pour cooled cherry mixture into the crust. Dot with butter. Moisten edge of bottom crust. Place top crust on and flute the edge of the pie. Make a slit in the middle of the crust for steam to escape. Sprinkle with sugar.
Bake for about 50 minutes. Remove from the oven and place on a rack to cool.
January 1, 2009
When I think of January, I think of a new year, celebrations, and lots of bubbly (LDS-style!). All of these are a perfect fit for a bridal shower.
Decorations: Anything for a New Year's party - balloons, streamers, tiaras, and funny noisemakers. Choose a color theme to tie everything together. If the bride knows her wedding colors, you could use those. If not, silver or gold paired with another color always looks nice. For a very elegant but feminine look, try a combination of silver, black, and pink.
Appetizers: For this party, think finger foods and lots of bubbly drinks! The recipes below are from A Bridal Shower.com
Chicken Puff Sandwiches
- 3/4 C. diced celery
- 1/4 C. diced green onion
- 2 t. relish
- 1/4 C. chopped almonds (optional)
- 1/2 C. Mayonnaise
- 2 to 3 dashes Tabasco Sauce
- salt and pepper
Cut the chicken into small pieces, add the rest of the ingredients and mix well. Chill until ready to assemble.
- 1 C. water
- 1/2 C. butter
- 1 C. flour
- 4 eggs
Add eggs, 1 at a time, beating well after each egg is added. Mixture should be smooth.
Drop by tablespoons onto an ungreased cookie sheet. Bake at 400°F. for about 15 minutes, until puffed and golden. Cool.
When ready to assemble, cut the tops off the puffs. Add filling and put top back on. Refrigerate until ready to use. Makes about 35 small puffs.
Top off these yummy sandwiches with some pretty Cheese & Pineapple Appetizers
Top off these delicious appetizers with some sparkling apple or grape juice served in wine or champagne glasses. If you don't have fancy glasses, go to your local Deseret Industries or Good Will. I picked up sixteen wine goblets for fifty cents each for a Murder Mystery Party one year. I've pulled them out many times since just for fun.
I loved these personalized mini-bottles of Martinelli's. They're so pretty and elegant! You can purchase them at Forever Wedding Store.com
A Bubbly Game: For this party, I'm going to suggest the one game every bride hates, but is soo much fun for pictures and strolls down memory lane. And hey, my version has a bubbly twist! You'll need lots of white tissue paper and some rolls of Scotch tape. Also, save all the bows and ribbon from the bride-to-be's gifts. You'll also need a paper plate and plastic cup.
Before the party, attach the plastic cup to the back of the paper plate. Be sure it's secure as the bride will be holding on to the cup. While the bride is opening her gifts, have one person assigned to creating a bow & ribbon bouquet. Fit as many of the bows and ribbons onto the front of the plate as you can.
After opening the gifts, the bride stands in the middle while everyone works together to create a bridal gown and veil by taping tissue paper together. Hint: It helps if you secure the tissue paper here and there with safety pins. This helps to keep it all from falling off the minute she starts walking.
Once the bride's dress and veil are done, hand her the bouquet. Take lots of pictures (be sure to tease her into some diva poses!). Then break out the bubbles! Split the guests up into two lines, just like when the bride & groom walk out of the temple. While the bride walks down the entry, the guests blow their bubbles over her. It's a good idea not to blow them directly at her so she doesn't get bubbles in her eyes!
I found these cute wedding cake bubbles at Oriental Trading.com
Another Fun Activity: To go along with the New Year theme, purchase a 365 day calendar. You know, the ones you tear off a page each day. Try to find one with a theme the bride would enjoy or think is funny - but be sure the pages are designed in a way that there's some extra writing room! Usually comics work great for this activity. Throughout the party, have the guests choose days (as many as they'd like). They can write in event reminders (such as birthdays, anniversaries, etc), marital advice, funny stories, or just decorate some of the pages with hearts or silly drawings. The bride will love finding out what each new day has in store for her!
Party Favors: Thank your guests for coming with a heart-shaped favor box filled with your own candy or nuts. I found these ones at Oriental Trading.comAren't they cute?
I hope you've enjoyed another fun bridal shower idea! If you have any bridal shower or wedding related questions, please email them to me.
Happy Wedding Preparations!
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